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Making up snow days…

Snow 2014

Snow 2014

Suffice it to say that “snow days” are a rarity here in the South. We just don’t have them that often and weather can cause havoc with our already tight schedules. Gwinnett County Public Schools is full of pride for their vision of having world-class schools. What they are also gaining a reputation for is not listening to the parents of the students who attend their world-class schools. The plan put forth, increasing the school day by 30 minutes, by the superintendent in response to having missed a certain number of instructional days has social media buzzing like a swarm of angry hornets…

The old adage, loosely interpreted, that you can’t please all of the people all of the time is probably more than apt for the situation. That being said, GCPS tends to do “what is best for everyone” under the auspices of statements by Superintendent Alvin Wilbanks such as: “The proposed plan is a logical, responsible one that we feel will best serve our students, teachers, and staff.” The chatter on social media indicates that the  interpretation by many parents is that the superintendent’s office tends to do what they want in the name of what is best for the reputation of the school system, not necessarily individual students.

Summary of the commentary includes:

Not happy about this as an option, honestly I’d rather them add make up days rather then stealing minutes from an already busy schedule.

Wow, this is going to make after school activities more crazy than they already were!

Means my kiddo won’t be home until 5:40 .

MS can not possibly be extended any later. Only option that may work for MS would be to start earlier.

What about babysitters and day care? The cost of an extended day for those who depend on that care?

What about teachers who have to pay for extra childcare?

How many hours will middle school students go without a meal? They can try to have a snack, but generally that eats up 15 minutes of time anyway.

Tutoring, therapy, guidance sessions will be interrupted.

Even though I am a freelancer, which does afford me the ability to work “around” my kids to the best of my ability, I cannot imagine how the GCPS extended school day will work for my own two boys. Middle school kids have other lessons, tutoring, medical appointments, etc… that will have to be accommodated. High school kids have jobs and college courses. Elementary School kids will be bat-crazy!

My background as a behavioral education teacher places one thought at the top of the list. I think it will erode the integrity of an already well-balanced/tightly balanced day by creating a sense of unhealthy daily anticipation. These kids are already pre-programmed to the current level of expectations and this will create some chaos…with a backlash that will likely further create a sense that the school board is not listening to the parents. The parents are those charged with the care of their children and who have carefully designed a schedule that includes a well-rounded life experience. And for many parents life includes a hang on by the skin-of-your teeth daily calendar that does not have even the minutest amount of time for variety. Thirty minutes is an indulgence, not logical or responsible.

Among the girlfriends…reinventing yourself & happy birthday

Aly and the family in England-Tours by Mom!

Aly and the family in England-Tours by Mom!

So, there are some birthdays of note and it is becoming a habit of mine to kind of highlight the girls when I get the chance. This week, our birthday girls are celebrating a “reinventions” or “incarnations” of themselves. They have in common that their kids are growing a bit older, more independent and mom can step outside the house (and outside of themselves). They have  found great new ventures, each very different, but both well-suited.

First up is a longtime friend (anything prior to 1980 qualifies as “longtime”). Aly has been everything from parrot farmer to travel agent and everything in between. All of her experiences have allowed her to move from caterpillar, to chrysalis and finally a lovely purple butterfly-unique unto her own. Today, she has embarked upon a new direction surrounded by beloved books…school-librarian-in-training…I truly have not found her to be any happier than she is today(ok, maybe when her boys were born or her soccer team made the championships). But, babies trump all. It is her birthday and I wish her quite well! Reinvention is a great gift to give yourself.

Raggedy Ann's at Ally's Attic.

Raggedy Ann’s at Ally’s Attic.

Second, but not least (is that right?)…is Raggedy Ann… Ann Geeslin also celebrates her birthday this week. Why Raggedy Ann? It is the name of her newest “incarnation” – a fabulous booth at Ally’s Attic  in Lawrenceville. Pretty items rotate in and out, all with Ann’s special touch. You never know if you will find a “frilly” or a “macabre” tucked here and there. Her personality is playful and it shows in her choices as a collector and as a dealer. Always fun!

She can also draw, paint and craft with just a touch of whimsy that makes the ordinary quite extraordinary. Plus, she is also a great mom to an amazing kid! And her husband…not just along for the ride-they kinda like each other…really like each other, and it shows.

Ann, Kevin and Jake

Ann, Kevin and Jake

For both these birthday girls, family is the best daily gift. They live and love with family first. happyHappyHAPPYDay to Ann and Aly!

Pile on Coach Aly!

Pile on Coach Aly!

 

Among the girlfriends…today’s inspiration

Nurse Amy Callis ready for helicopter ambulance.

Nurse Amy Callis ready for helicopter ambulance.

Every day, among the friends who post to Facebook, I find inspiration. Today is no different.

Today, Amy is trying to balance her reaction to negativity and “meanness” that can really hurt and unbalance you. She posted a blog about how we can become physically ill from trying to absorb the pain of another’s anger, cruelties, and downright meanness.

My experience is that most “mean” people are using defense mechanisms to control their own lives despite how negatively those mechanisms might impact them. Most “meanies” are hurting inside themselves from things often far more insidious than the average gal can even fathom.

But, that being said…we can’t save everyone and for my friend Amy, who spends her work days caring for and transporting the very ill or very injured children for CHOA, a sensitive and open soul is a must.  Don’t get me wrong, she is no wimp and my money is on her if anyone tried to hurt a kid, but she is just the kind of person who looks for the best in anyone. That also makes her a “meanies” favorite kind of target.

My advice? As if she even asked…

I have tried to learn to let it flow past me as if those negative ions were incapable of penetrating my being. I find it has made me somewhat stronger, I also find that having like women around me for the majority of my time helps build that defense. It is a visual for me. Kind of like a master shield that the “meanies” can’t budge.

And to answer her question about this time in her life: Yes, at 45, YES!!! you get a “pass” when you simply walk away, the trick is…leaving their angry energy “with” them instead of allowing it to trail along like  that piece of toilet paper from the public bathroom. You don’t really know it is there, but the 2ply is enough to set you off balance. And it is up to your girlfriends to politely step on the end of that negativity trail and leave it to blow in the wind as you walk away.