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Two nuns and a writer…

Monastery of the Visitation in Snellville, GA  (photo Arch. of Atl)

Monastery of the Visitation in Snellville, GA
(photo Arch. of Atl)

Two nuns and a writer walk into the local lab for some bloodwork…The comedy of errors that led me to today’s “chat with nuns” was pretty frustrating, but proof that God always has a little plan in store.

As usual, I was running late, but the good news was that my kid DID make the bus and I could proceed without unnecessary additional time in the car-rider line to drop him off. I was driving my mother’s car because mine was on day three of being in the shop. Somehow, I managed to go to the wrong lab-twice! And I still had to have blood drawn, which isn’t all that fun. However, it did land me in a waiting room chair between two nuns and that was an experience in itself. Sitting there caused me to reflect on my morning and I was caught up in the thought that I had not done much of anything one might consider holy or devout. I hadn’t even taken time to properly prepare myself which led to the crazy nature of my route to the phlebotomist.

Oddly, in my zig-zag around town to get to the first wrong lab, I had passed the actual home of these particular nuns and took note that there were several cars parked there for morning Mass. As I passed, I thought to myself that I should take some time to attend at Mary Field sometime…

Sometimes…God stops you in your tracks and slows you down. As I listened to each of my two waiting room companions, I was reminded that we all need to take time to listen. Sister JM smiled and told me about how she used to make the bread that became the Host. It was a few years since she had been able to do so, but she had fond memories of each step of the process. She talked of the “dampening” process and how the cutting had to be done at just the right time or you ended up with crumbs. Sister C chimed in with a loving recollection of how the whole process was so spiritual. Something as simple as making bread that would become the center of our Mass was such a satisfying experience that, years later, each would recall the events with deep reverence.

Using the gifts that God has blessed me with, I urged each on with a small question or request for clarity. These questions led Sister C to tell me of her love of music and, as she realized my comprehension, she began to question me. So, I told her about my oldest teenaged son who loves to compose music and his understanding that his gifts are something to be thankful for. She promised to pray for him and the guidance that would bear fruit from his efforts. Sister JM recalled her father who had favored the Gregorian sounds. She found joy in the fact that, although singing had not been a gift I had been granted, that my youngest son sang with a beautiful voice. She acknowledged my own father’s influence on the musical abilities of my sons because he sang Barbershop Style and that made her smile a smile of the memory of her father’s voice. Each of the nuns promised to pray for my family and wished me well. I promised to do the same.

Each of these beautiful women, their hands showing their age, but their eyes bright with the enthusiasm of a spiritual life, gave me a gift today. They stopped me in my tracks and returned my pace to normal again. They gave me something to think about when I feel I am too rushed to give thanks and praise to Our Lord. These women were on an errand of mercy today and they were not really aware of it. Or, perhaps they were well aware of their ministry. The next time I see them it will go something like this…Two nuns and a writer walk into Mass…

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Strawberry Memorial Day

Grandpa Earl Volpert, Sr. WW II

Grandpa Earl Volpert, Sr. WW II

Memorial Day is a special day to be reserved for those service men who did not return home.

Butch’s dad, Earl Volpert Sr., did come home after serving as a medic in Italy in WWII.  Earl Jr. (Butch or Dado as he is better known) was two before his father held him.  He spent many years coaching the boys of St. Patrick’s Elementary the art of playing basketball.    He worked his way up through the ranks of the Terre Haute Fire Department.  After retirement from the THFD, he was the Asst. Director of Civil Defense in Terre Haute.  The Cuban Missile Crisis was ever bit as scary as the unrests of today

His joy was a premie named Beth.  When she got old enough to enjoy real food her favorite was strawberries.  We made the trip from northern Indiana to Terre Haute about every three months.  In the worst of Winter somehow he always found fresh strawberries for her arrival. This was the early ‘60’s, a far different grocery shopping world than today.  His house was full of several generations and not a lot of dollars. It is the memories that count in families.

In my multigenerational garden in Grayson, GA the strawberry plants have not produced well.  This Spring we took Jackson, Steve and Kim’s 4 yr. old, to the strawberry fields in Loganville to pick his own gallon.  Like his Auntie “B” they are his favorite food. However, yesterday I noticed that Jackson’s strawberry plant on his back deck has sprouted new tendrils and flowers.  My circuitous thinking says to me that on this Memorial Day it is Grandpa Volpert Sr.’s way of saying hello to a little strawberry loving fellow with the last name of Volpert.  Sr. died years before there was a Jackson, but it is the memories that count in families.

Marianne “Ditdo” Lough Volpert writes along with her daughter, Beth in the Multigenerational Garden. They live in Grayson, GA.

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Multigenerational Garden…Mother’s Day Musings

Ditdo is modeling her Easter bonnet complete with garden customization.

Ditdo in her garden.

From Ditdo…aka grandma/Marianne Volpert who is a regular contributor to this blog dubbed Multigenerational Garden…

Out my kitchen window the generations move on.  The lilac named Miss Kim, Beth gave to me is about done, but I see the first bud on Sharon’s peony and the iris that came from Grandma Catherine Volpert’s garden when she moved from Terre Haute to Grayson are in full bloom.

Plants and flowers represent so many special people.

Plants and flowers represent so many special people.

Kim is my daughter-in-law’s name. I love her for many reasons.  The most important one is that she has shared her husband and her son’s time so graciously with me. Beth is my daughter and even better, my friend. We share lots, most importantly my two older grandsons. Sharon was my sister-in-law with the emphasis on sister.   She was only 12 when I joined this family and  because neither one of us had sisters we made the relationship become what the best of sisters share. Cancer took her much too early in life.  Catherine was my mother-in-law. It was amazing to watch her become an independent woman. She didn’t attempt emancipation until she was in her ‘60’s but she went gung-ho then including getting a license to drive.  No sixteen year old ever felt the rush of freedom that being behind a car can give more than Catherine.  Alzheimers took that independence but it was a good twenty-plus year ride.

Daughter-in-law, daughter, sister-in-law, mother-in-law all there in the garden for me to see first thing as I am making the morning coffee.

What a lucky Ditdo am I.

Multigenerational Garden…wine bottle opener whine…

Two bottle openers, two methods…one result!

Two bottle openers, two methods…one result!

Ditdo frequently laments my trapdoor memory for all manner of useless and sometimes useful information. She says it is just heXX getting older and not being able to do things that we “younger” folks can do with ease…(yeah right…).

One of the categories that stands out in the long list of things I “cannot” do is our selection of wine bottle openers. We have all sorts, but two of them are used the most. One is your average, every day dollar store variety. You know…screw in, press down the vice and viola! you have an opened bottle of wine to cure your whine. The other is a source of constant consternation for me (the “younger”). It is one of those XO models that is supposed to be good for arthritic hands. My 71 year-old mom has no trouble WHATSOEVER utilizing this fancy tool to pop open a bottle of her favorite merlot or sauvignon blanc. She places the instrument upon the top of the bottle and within a second or two has her bottle open. I cannot operate the blasted thing to save my life. It completely confounds me beyond reason. I generally end up with a shredded cork and bits floating around in my chardonnay. This leads to having to strain the bits out using a method fully tested by my mother and me, but like I am apt to say…that is a totally different story.

So, in the meantime, I am often humbled to be forced to ask my mommy to open my bottle of wine. But, in the end, if there is a bit of whining to do, well, we do that equally well-mostly on the front piazza in our multigenerational garden where I will no doubt dredge up some sort of useless trivia from the depths of my brain  to take our minds off of the current subject of whine.

Multigenerational Garden musings Dado…

Dado and Rebadog celebrate 2 years since open-heart surgery.

Dado and Rebadog celebrate 2 years since open-heart surgery.

Meet Earl. He has a few monikers, Dado is his favorite, but we also like to call him “Chief Mended-Heart”.  Just over 2 years ago, he had open-heart surgery at Gwinnett Medical Center and he is pictured here in our multigenerational garden with his trusty sidekick, Reba.

On this particular sunny southern day, Dado was preparing the soil for “the great potato experiment.” His middle grandson, Alex, wandered out into the garden and pondered the scene. He asked, “What are you planting?” Dado answered, “Potatoes.” Alex paused and then asked, “Are you planning to make vodka?”

And so it goes in the multigenerational garden.

Multigenerational Garden Musings from Ditdo…

Ditdo is modeling her Easter bonnet complete with garden customization.

Ditdo is modeling her Easter bonnet complete with garden customization.

Our multigenerational garden comes complete with a grandmother uniquely named “Ditdo”. It was a version of “Dado” chosen especially by the eldest grandson, Drew, when he was a mere 10 months or so. But that is another story for another day.

Yesterday, Easter Sunday, Ditdo was very busy slinging hams and taters around, but took a break to watch an extremely competitive corn hole game in the yard. She is seen here in her Easter bonnet completely customized by her friends Natalie and Ann Williams who are the mistresses of the hot glue gun. The decorations are mostly garden-oriented and were inspired by the lovely items that continually spring forth from the gardens surrounding our multigenerational house.

Now that you have had a proper introduction to Ditdo, read below for a bit of a read on how the multigenerational garden sends its tendrils curling into our lives each day…

It occurred to me while pulling out the two frozen tomato plants that were purchased at a store that it was supposed to happen that way. The ones I have replaced them with were surprise Easter gifts from church friends of so very many years and delivered by their adult son and wife who are very special friends to this family. I would guess that we have some delicious tomatoes on their way. -Ditdo

Making up snow days…

Snow 2014

Snow 2014

Suffice it to say that “snow days” are a rarity here in the South. We just don’t have them that often and weather can cause havoc with our already tight schedules. Gwinnett County Public Schools is full of pride for their vision of having world-class schools. What they are also gaining a reputation for is not listening to the parents of the students who attend their world-class schools. The plan put forth, increasing the school day by 30 minutes, by the superintendent in response to having missed a certain number of instructional days has social media buzzing like a swarm of angry hornets…

The old adage, loosely interpreted, that you can’t please all of the people all of the time is probably more than apt for the situation. That being said, GCPS tends to do “what is best for everyone” under the auspices of statements by Superintendent Alvin Wilbanks such as: “The proposed plan is a logical, responsible one that we feel will best serve our students, teachers, and staff.” The chatter on social media indicates that the  interpretation by many parents is that the superintendent’s office tends to do what they want in the name of what is best for the reputation of the school system, not necessarily individual students.

Summary of the commentary includes:

Not happy about this as an option, honestly I’d rather them add make up days rather then stealing minutes from an already busy schedule.

Wow, this is going to make after school activities more crazy than they already were!

Means my kiddo won’t be home until 5:40 .

MS can not possibly be extended any later. Only option that may work for MS would be to start earlier.

What about babysitters and day care? The cost of an extended day for those who depend on that care?

What about teachers who have to pay for extra childcare?

How many hours will middle school students go without a meal? They can try to have a snack, but generally that eats up 15 minutes of time anyway.

Tutoring, therapy, guidance sessions will be interrupted.

Even though I am a freelancer, which does afford me the ability to work “around” my kids to the best of my ability, I cannot imagine how the GCPS extended school day will work for my own two boys. Middle school kids have other lessons, tutoring, medical appointments, etc… that will have to be accommodated. High school kids have jobs and college courses. Elementary School kids will be bat-crazy!

My background as a behavioral education teacher places one thought at the top of the list. I think it will erode the integrity of an already well-balanced/tightly balanced day by creating a sense of unhealthy daily anticipation. These kids are already pre-programmed to the current level of expectations and this will create some chaos…with a backlash that will likely further create a sense that the school board is not listening to the parents. The parents are those charged with the care of their children and who have carefully designed a schedule that includes a well-rounded life experience. And for many parents life includes a hang on by the skin-of-your teeth daily calendar that does not have even the minutest amount of time for variety. Thirty minutes is an indulgence, not logical or responsible.

Among the girlfriends…reinventing yourself & happy birthday

Aly and the family in England-Tours by Mom!

Aly and the family in England-Tours by Mom!

So, there are some birthdays of note and it is becoming a habit of mine to kind of highlight the girls when I get the chance. This week, our birthday girls are celebrating a “reinventions” or “incarnations” of themselves. They have in common that their kids are growing a bit older, more independent and mom can step outside the house (and outside of themselves). They have  found great new ventures, each very different, but both well-suited.

First up is a longtime friend (anything prior to 1980 qualifies as “longtime”). Aly has been everything from parrot farmer to travel agent and everything in between. All of her experiences have allowed her to move from caterpillar, to chrysalis and finally a lovely purple butterfly-unique unto her own. Today, she has embarked upon a new direction surrounded by beloved books…school-librarian-in-training…I truly have not found her to be any happier than she is today(ok, maybe when her boys were born or her soccer team made the championships). But, babies trump all. It is her birthday and I wish her quite well! Reinvention is a great gift to give yourself.

Raggedy Ann's at Ally's Attic.

Raggedy Ann’s at Ally’s Attic.

Second, but not least (is that right?)…is Raggedy Ann… Ann Geeslin also celebrates her birthday this week. Why Raggedy Ann? It is the name of her newest “incarnation” – a fabulous booth at Ally’s Attic  in Lawrenceville. Pretty items rotate in and out, all with Ann’s special touch. You never know if you will find a “frilly” or a “macabre” tucked here and there. Her personality is playful and it shows in her choices as a collector and as a dealer. Always fun!

She can also draw, paint and craft with just a touch of whimsy that makes the ordinary quite extraordinary. Plus, she is also a great mom to an amazing kid! And her husband…not just along for the ride-they kinda like each other…really like each other, and it shows.

Ann, Kevin and Jake

Ann, Kevin and Jake

For both these birthday girls, family is the best daily gift. They live and love with family first. happyHappyHAPPYDay to Ann and Aly!

Pile on Coach Aly!

Pile on Coach Aly!

 

Among the girlfriends…today’s inspiration

Nurse Amy Callis ready for helicopter ambulance.

Nurse Amy Callis ready for helicopter ambulance.

Every day, among the friends who post to Facebook, I find inspiration. Today is no different.

Today, Amy is trying to balance her reaction to negativity and “meanness” that can really hurt and unbalance you. She posted a blog about how we can become physically ill from trying to absorb the pain of another’s anger, cruelties, and downright meanness.

My experience is that most “mean” people are using defense mechanisms to control their own lives despite how negatively those mechanisms might impact them. Most “meanies” are hurting inside themselves from things often far more insidious than the average gal can even fathom.

But, that being said…we can’t save everyone and for my friend Amy, who spends her work days caring for and transporting the very ill or very injured children for CHOA, a sensitive and open soul is a must.  Don’t get me wrong, she is no wimp and my money is on her if anyone tried to hurt a kid, but she is just the kind of person who looks for the best in anyone. That also makes her a “meanies” favorite kind of target.

My advice? As if she even asked…

I have tried to learn to let it flow past me as if those negative ions were incapable of penetrating my being. I find it has made me somewhat stronger, I also find that having like women around me for the majority of my time helps build that defense. It is a visual for me. Kind of like a master shield that the “meanies” can’t budge.

And to answer her question about this time in her life: Yes, at 45, YES!!! you get a “pass” when you simply walk away, the trick is…leaving their angry energy “with” them instead of allowing it to trail along like  that piece of toilet paper from the public bathroom. You don’t really know it is there, but the 2ply is enough to set you off balance. And it is up to your girlfriends to politely step on the end of that negativity trail and leave it to blow in the wind as you walk away.

Let them call you Sweetheart…time to order up a Singing Valentine

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6_2EZTHUKxU

Order early Atlanta and have a REAL Barbershop Quartet deliver an old-fashioned valentine. Complete with a red rose, these Barbershoppers will woo your beloved with time-honored love songs. Let Me Call You Sweetheart and My Wild Irish Rose are among the very favorites.

Contact the Stone Mountain Chorus early for the best options of delivery of an unforgettable and incredibly romantic Valentine. Not to mention, you have to order early to make sure you are able to book MY dad’s quartet! #prouddaughter

Stone Mountain Barbershop Chorus