Nurse Amy Callis ready for helicopter ambulance.
Every day, among the friends who post to Facebook, I find inspiration. Today is no different.
Today, Amy is trying to balance her reaction to negativity and “meanness” that can really hurt and unbalance you. She posted a blog about how we can become physically ill from trying to absorb the pain of another’s anger, cruelties, and downright meanness.
My experience is that most “mean” people are using defense mechanisms to control their own lives despite how negatively those mechanisms might impact them. Most “meanies” are hurting inside themselves from things often far more insidious than the average gal can even fathom.
But, that being said…we can’t save everyone and for my friend Amy, who spends her work days caring for and transporting the very ill or very injured children for CHOA, a sensitive and open soul is a must. Don’t get me wrong, she is no wimp and my money is on her if anyone tried to hurt a kid, but she is just the kind of person who looks for the best in anyone. That also makes her a “meanies” favorite kind of target.
My advice? As if she even asked…
I have tried to learn to let it flow past me as if those negative ions were incapable of penetrating my being. I find it has made me somewhat stronger, I also find that having like women around me for the majority of my time helps build that defense. It is a visual for me. Kind of like a master shield that the “meanies” can’t budge.
And to answer her question about this time in her life: Yes, at 45, YES!!! you get a “pass” when you simply walk away, the trick is…leaving their angry energy “with” them instead of allowing it to trail along like that piece of toilet paper from the public bathroom. You don’t really know it is there, but the 2ply is enough to set you off balance. And it is up to your girlfriends to politely step on the end of that negativity trail and leave it to blow in the wind as you walk away.
FreelanceBeth 