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Gardens and Haint Blues

Yesterday, as I began to prepare for our neighborhood Friendsgiving, I had an unexpected visitor. Unexpected as he has been gone from his painful earthly vessel for nearly a year. But, given his particular ways, I should have expected his appearance in my kitchen.

A true Southern Gentleman – as he referred to his status of appreciating the finer gentlemen of his world – my friend loved to invade my kitchen. I suppose it was payback from my time invading his mama’s kitchen and that of his home smack-dab in the middle of our hometown. He came when my babies were born and invaded my kitchen. He came when I had surgery and invaded my kitchen. When he found himself in a tiny apartment without a proper kitchen, he came and invaded my kitchen. He was a talented cook and baker. He was also a hot mess!

Back to Friendsgiving. I wanted to bring a “raw apple cake” to honor my grandmother and great grandmother. Back in the days of the depression, apples were plentiful in Southern Indiana, as was a bit of fat, lard, oil – whatever you call it. Those ingredients, a measure or two of flour and a minimal measure of sugar put you in business. Raw apple cake at Thanksgiving was a staple.

I began to sense his presence in my kitchen the very second my hand wrapped around the White Lily Flour bag. I could hear him. I answered. The conversation went like this:

“Hey Poodle.”

“Oh! You gave me a start.”

“So sorry Poodle, I missed you.”

“Well, I miss you too.”

“I know.”

“Well, aren’t we full of ourselves?”

“Just because I landed myself on a purty cloud doesn’t mean I have changed one little iota.”

“I know”

(hearty laughter)

“Now, Sweetmeat, are you using the White Lily?”

“Of course.”

“And the sugar?”

“Not Domino.”

“I expect that will be ok.”

“I also bought the Publix brand cinnamon.”

“I found Publix to have decent spices.”

“All right then, here I go.”

“Is that the way they did it in Terre Haute?” (Private joke spanning 4 decades).

“Yes, of course!” (more laughter)

“Now, are you going to cut them apples in thin slices or thick?”

“You know as well as I do that you cut them in thick slices or they will dry out.”

“Just making sure Poodle – hey, are those flowers still coming from your garden?”

(Beams a prideful smile) “I planted them with the lilys you left for me.”

“I enjoyed them this summer when I stopped by.”

“I figured someone had pulled the dead-heads off.”

“Naw, that was some jewel I met in your garden named Kenni.”

“You’ve met Kenni?”

“She’s a peach – told me all about how she was from Southern Indiana too – loves to hang out in your garden.”

“I miss her too.”

“I’ll let her know.”

“Thank you. You are going, aren’t you?”

“Yes, the cake will come out like a pudding that way you know.”

“I know.”

“Just don’t get any crazy ideas of paintin’ anythin’ Haint Blue, and I’ll be back at Christmas to see the kids and your sweet mama and daddy.”

“I look forward to it.”

“You better try to bake the mince. Your daddy loves it so, and I owed him one.”

“I know – and yes, I will get the None Such for sure.”

“I know – Kisses Poodle.”

The Hill…

The Hill at Memorial Stadium in Terre Haute, Indiana.

The Hill at Memorial Stadium in Terre Haute, Indiana.

It isn’t about gardens today but about grass on a hill.  On the opposite side of the stands at Indiana State University’s Memorial Stadium is a grassy berm.  On football Saturdays you will find my nephew, Jeff, sitting in his chair intently watching.  Besides being a teacher he has been a football coach for many years while working with youth leagues through high school ages.  The fact that he has two sons who love the sport has just made teaching and coaching more fun, particularly on Saturday afternoons.

It is the “hill” that fascinates me.  As my brother, Jeff’s dad,  progressed through the stages of pancreatic cancer, no matter how soft the chair he brought to make the stadium seats more comfortable, he couldn’t control the sun.  It did not shine on those seats for very long on the Fall afternoons and he got cold no matter how insulated he was.

One weekend when Butch and I came up to Terre Haute to watch an ISU game that Jeff’s son, Brock, was playing in, my brother said I would find him on the hill across from the stands.  We were in the stands so I could see how the sun shined on Phil for much longer into the afternoon.  The next time we came up from Atlanta we hauled our chairs up to the hill to sit next to him. He was my big brother and I wanted as much sun on that hill to shine on both of us.

Last weekend we sat on the hill with Jeff watching his youngest son, Tsali play.  The sun felt very warm and comforting.  We know the spirit of my brother, Jeff’s dad, Tsali & Brock’s grandpa, is always there on the hill.  It was a warm Saturday afternoon.

Ditdo (aka Marianne Lough Volpert)

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Strawberry Memorial Day

Grandpa Earl Volpert, Sr. WW II

Grandpa Earl Volpert, Sr. WW II

Memorial Day is a special day to be reserved for those service men who did not return home.

Butch’s dad, Earl Volpert Sr., did come home after serving as a medic in Italy in WWII.  Earl Jr. (Butch or Dado as he is better known) was two before his father held him.  He spent many years coaching the boys of St. Patrick’s Elementary the art of playing basketball.    He worked his way up through the ranks of the Terre Haute Fire Department.  After retirement from the THFD, he was the Asst. Director of Civil Defense in Terre Haute.  The Cuban Missile Crisis was ever bit as scary as the unrests of today

His joy was a premie named Beth.  When she got old enough to enjoy real food her favorite was strawberries.  We made the trip from northern Indiana to Terre Haute about every three months.  In the worst of Winter somehow he always found fresh strawberries for her arrival. This was the early ‘60’s, a far different grocery shopping world than today.  His house was full of several generations and not a lot of dollars. It is the memories that count in families.

In my multigenerational garden in Grayson, GA the strawberry plants have not produced well.  This Spring we took Jackson, Steve and Kim’s 4 yr. old, to the strawberry fields in Loganville to pick his own gallon.  Like his Auntie “B” they are his favorite food. However, yesterday I noticed that Jackson’s strawberry plant on his back deck has sprouted new tendrils and flowers.  My circuitous thinking says to me that on this Memorial Day it is Grandpa Volpert Sr.’s way of saying hello to a little strawberry loving fellow with the last name of Volpert.  Sr. died years before there was a Jackson, but it is the memories that count in families.

Marianne “Ditdo” Lough Volpert writes along with her daughter, Beth in the Multigenerational Garden. They live in Grayson, GA.

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Twelfth Night…Not Quite…Celebrate Anyway!

December 12th, 12 days of Christmas and others 12’s of December are often mistaken for that beautiful epiphany which takes place in January with wise old kings and gifts. In our family, the 12th of December is marked on our calendar as a day of celebrating a pair of beautiful women. One is my SIL and the other my bestie since birth (some time ago, but not quite ancient…).

On December 12th, our family celebrates Kim and Pam. Both women are pretty amazing. For instance, Kim doesn’t talk about it much, but she served our country. It isn’t something she flaunts or uses to command respect. It simply IS something she did for which her nephews thank her and her FIL salutes her every November when his Barbershop Chorus sings The Armed Forces Medley. As the song moves through the various branches of our military, Kim quietly waits and then rises with the dignity of a soldier to receive a small flag in token of her service during the Air Force Anthem. She sits back down quietly after her song is sung and then moves about her life as if she hadn’t really done anything special. I admire that. While the military life was no picnic, it was pretty good training for the hard-won fight of motherhood.  Little Jackson T. is the light of her life and she and my brother have the business of parenting down pat. While I could name a whole bunch of other things I admire about my SIL, my favorite (next to my nephew) would be her Christmas Eve  baked ziti-no contest.  Now that I HAVE mentioned it, there are just a few days to go before we get to indulge in that tasty delight. What better reason to celebrate the 12th than to count down to ziti night?

The 12th also marks the birth date of the longest relationship I have had to date. Well, that sounds strange, but we shared a crib, a bathtub, a play pen and probably a crusty zwieback cracker or two along the way. Pam and I were born just 6 months apart to four college students in Terre Haute, Indiana. Her mom and dad and my mom and dad managed to pool enough money together on Friday or Saturday nights to crack a bottle of wine and boil some pasta together. We spent lots of time together over the years…sometimes over pasta and later…over wine of our own.

We actually maintained our friendship over 46 years through letters, and occasional long-distance phone calls (if we were lucky!), summer family vacations to theme parks, the 1982 World’s Fair and to a dude ranch in Colorado. Many of our best memories came from our 1986 summer. We returned to the dude ranch at which our families had vacationed and worked for the summer. Long’s Peak Inn in Estes Park was our home for a summer. More specifically, a cabin named Tin Lizzy housed the two of us, a British exchange student named Carrie and a crazy Florida Gator named Janeen. What a summer-think Dirty Dancing Heads to the Rockies….

Being a Notre Dame grad (Catholic like me…) made Pam the clear choice for Godmothering my two boys. Being a Notre Dame grad also made her a more amazing person. Besides being incredibly well-read, beyond-words intelligent and a trusted confidant, Pam has a heart shinier than the gold dome on campus. She spends her days, working with the residents of a nursing home. Their stories are varied, but she loves them all. Sometimes, she reminds me of my favorite aunt, Sharon Ann. Sharon worked at a state mental hospital for many years and the stories she told were always tempered with affection for people in the hospital. Pam reminds me of Sharon in the way she talks about “her” residents and in a variety of other ways. A giving heart, beautiful eyes and a shopping wild-woman, Pam’s birthday is always worth celebrating…perhaps with a bag of peanut M&M’s divided by color and formed into a rainbow along with a bottle of blush wine…but, while that would be following our in our parents’ footsteps…it is quite  another story.

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Happy Birthday Girls! Love you both!

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